therapy for narcissistic Abuse & trauma
in Austin & San Antonio, Texas
You feel damaged beyond repair from narcissistic abuse and trauma.
When will the love bombing come back? You feel so much shame even wanting it back. But you want the person who loves you, pulls you in, not pushes you away, back. You’re tired of them pushing you away every time they have no more use for you.
It’s all temporary with the narcissist.
The love is always taken away. That's because the narcissist is the same person they’ve always been. It’s just so hard to believe and accept anyone can be this way.
“If only they’d change,” you think. And, sometimes they do because they need something from you. But if you have needs, stand up for yourself, show any sensitivity, or sign of weakness or vulnerability, they are gone, emotionally or otherwise. The stonewalling, silent treatment show up when you least expect. They insult you, make you doubt yourself, tell you something is wrong with you.
You try to envision yourself with a kind, loving, thoughtful future partner who has no hint of narcissism. But that’s hard to imagine because you've been through so much narcissistic trauma.
You want the push pull to stop.
But you somehow feel driven towards the spiral of emotions and the narcissist's rollercoaster. This is what you’re used to. This is what a trauma bond does.
You sometimes question whether they're the narcissist and start to question if you're the narcissist. You’re not. Even *if* they aren’t, this is still toxic for you, and you know on every level, what you’ve been going through.
The gaslighting seems to work.
It’s made you question yourself repeatedly and feel stuck in ruminating over this. If you haven’t been hoovered, you’re wonder when or if you’ll be hoovered. If you're constantly being hoovered, you wonder when it will stop. You wonder how many times you can block them and if they'll ever leave you alone. Sometimes, you don't want it to stop. You just want it to be better.
But you’ve read all about narcissists, watched videos on narcissism, you may even be part of a group forum about how to cope with the narcissist and heal from narcissistic abuse. You've learned just how difficult it is for a narcissist to change. So, you try to go no contact, you try to grey rock, you distract yourself but somehow, some way, they make their way back into your life. If they don't make their way back, you're drawn to beg, plead, feel desperate because you just want the "good" back.
You end up constantly feeling disappointed in yourself. Asking yourself why you continue to let this person back in your life. You blame yourself. Tell yourself you deserve it and that something is wrong with you.
You’re ready to break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse and trauma.
You’ve had enough of the repetitive cycle of idealization, devaluation, discard/disengagement, and the hoover.
You know on a very deep level, this isn't healthy or good for you in mind, body, spirit, and heart. Your heart aches. You have so much guilt and shame from this. You're ready to make changes so you can stop this crushing cycle. You know it may be a difficult, painful path because of the hold the narcissist has had on you in your life. But you're ready to do this.
You deserve so much more.
You deserve to be free from this pain. There are real changes that you’ve been through in the mind, body, and the brain because of the trauma from narcissistic abuse. You may feel lost and don’t feel like anyone believes or understands you right now but I do.
How can therapy for narcissistic trauma help?
What you've been through is a very painful, lonely experience. But you no longer have to be alone in your experiences from this and you can recover.
Therapy can help you heal from the devastating effects narcissistic abuse and trauma have on your mind, body, and brain. I’ll help you learn about the changes that occur in the brain and body so, you can fully understand the impact narcissistic abuse has had on you.
We'll work together using therapies like, EMDR, that help you heal the effects of the trauma and learn how to use your body’s natural ability to regulate, restore, and heal on a deeper, lasting level.
You'll finally be able to rewire the parts of your brain that immediately have you in a constant state of fight, flight, fawn, or freeze response so, your brain doesn’t perceive everything as a danger and constantly in protect mode when it doesn't always need to be.
You'll process the trauma in a way where you can finally unburden yourself from old and recent wounds and learn how to take action in setting and sticking to healthy boundaries that work for you.
How I Can Support You
PTSD and complex trauma therapy will help you rise above challenges and start moving toward your ideal life with less stress and more calm. You'll gain the practical tools you need to lower your anxiety and finally resolve issues from the past.
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy) allows you to work through a traumatic memory and decrease shame, guilt, sadness, anxiety, fear, negative thoughts, and low self-esteem attached to it.
My Specialties
Anxiety therapy can help you break free from the never-ending loop of constant stress and anxiety.
Birth trauma therapy can help you experience more joy and less anxiety when you recall that day.
Childhood trauma therapy can help you identify old feelings and old wounds and release them.
Heal from the devastating effects narcissistic abuse and trauma have on your mind, body, and brain.
Make and keep boundaries, and release the anxiety of feeling the urge to constantly please.
Remove the mask of perfectionism without giving up your strong work ethic or high, realistic standards.
WE’RE IN THIS TOGETHER.
you never have to do this alone.
Ready to Get Started?
Schedule a 20-minute consultation to see if we might be a good fit for each other, and so I can find out what your unique needs are for therapy.