Childhood Trauma therapy for adult women in texas, oregon, and arizona
“If it’s out of your hands, it deserves freedom from your mind, too.”
― Ivan Nuru
You realize childhood trauma has affected you in a lot of ways you didn't notice before.
Not very many people know what you've experienced. You feel ashamed and uncomfortable about it. You feel this way yet you'd never judge anyone else for what they've been through.
That's what childhood trauma can do. It can keep you bound to secrets that aren't yours to keep.
What happened to you isn't your fault.
Sometimes you think what happened wasn't that bad but deep down you feel and believe it actually was that bad. If it was emotional trauma or neglect, you couldn't see the bruises on the outside, so you feel bad even feeling this way at all. Somehow, it's hard for you to give yourself that permission.
But it wasn't okay for you to have to parent your parents, watch them fight, take care of your siblings like a second parent, feel lonely in a house filled with people, and have no one to confide in when things happened to you.
You didn't deserve this.
Childhood trauma makes you have to reparent yourself and repair wounds you didn’t create which is no easy feat.
You were a curious, sensitive, gifted, compassionate child.
The child who was carefree and kind. A curious child who always wanted to know why? But you were also sensitive. You realize now you lived in a home where this couldn't possibly be nurtured and it’s hurt you.
You're still trying to please others around you and make them smile. You feel like you're still having to keep up with the role you had in your family.
You feel like you can't have a voice, and it's best not to be seen or take up space.
It was common for you to constantly feel like you were tiptoeing around, reading a parent's mood, walking around on eggshells, and living in often, unspoken patterns of everyday life.
Feeling the human touch of love, witnessing a soft smile or extended arms reaching out for you was rare because it just didn't happen during your childhood.
Growing up with Childhood Trauma
You always thought the way you were treated growing up was normal. Everything you went through had to be the same for others. It wasn't until you started getting older that you realized your friends didn't have the same experiences you did.
This made you want to get away from it all. You thought about ways to get away and sometimes you did by rebelling even if it was a quiet rebellion. Spending as much time as you could with others-friends and their families, neighbors, teachers, or a trusted relative was something you did as often as you could.
What you didn't realize is you were already a generational cycle breaker.
Effects of Childhood Trauma
By all accounts, you've made it. All on your own. In your career, as a parent, friend, and partner. But you didn't come away from your childhood unscathed.
The pain from the past keeps you from living the life you've worked hard for, in peace and greater happiness.
You've noticed you try to avoid negative emotions at all costs-sadness, anxiety, anger. This is because when you experience any emotion as a sensitive woman, you feel everything more deeply-the positive, negative, and everything in-between.
To avoid feeling anything hard, you might stay as busy as possible or distracted-more mindless eating, exercising to the point of exhaustion, staying super focused on your children or work.
Anything to restore a sense of balance.
But if you hold up a mirror, you can see and feel the sadness, anxiety, and drain of energy, just from avoiding having to feel the feelings or think about the past.
And you still try to keep that smile on your face and make others happy.
It's sometimes difficult to maintain boundaries and you struggle with people pleasing-trying to be the perfect parent, friend, partner, spouse, and in your work.
This only proves to be exhausting.
Anxiety has a way of stealing your light.
You worry about so much.
What you worry about most is how what you're going through affects your relationships-with your children, your partner, your friends and loved ones. You worry about your sense of ease, emotional safety, and sense of security.
You don't want your children to go through what you’ve been through and worry about your experiences somehow impacting them in some way.
How can childhood trauma therapy help?
You don't have to stay trapped in the wounds of childhood trauma or continue going through the motions of every day life without authenticity.
Earth-shattering events that are out of your control have happened to you but from this, you can experience growth and transformation if you're willing to work through the hard parts.
We'll work together to:
Break down and understand why it’s been so hard for you
Identify old feelings and old wounds
Recognize they're there and release them through specialized trauma therapy
Learn how to deal with this
Forge a clear a path towards freedom and peace from the past
It's ok to let go of this now.
Understanding patterns are here because of what happened beginning in childhood, and how these patterns can change by caring for yourself without judgment; dropping unrealistic expectations of yourself; quieting the harshness of your inner critic; moving to a secure attachment; and creating new, healthier patterns for yourself, will be key in our work together.
The respect for the resilience you had as a child, grieving what you may have lost, transforming the trauma into healing, and importance of doing the work for yourself starts when you're ready.
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Let's work together!Schedule a complimentary 20-minute phone consultation today.